We’ve all been in relationships and we know how it is to be dumped. The feeling of floating soon turns to a churning gut and a dizzy feeling. At the time, nothing has hurt anymore and you’re pretty sure nothing ever will. And depending on your life, it might be one of the most difficult things. But as a writer, you’ll soon learn the rejection hurts more when your story is the subject of the email or letter.
When you receive your first rejection it feels like you’ve been stabbed in the gut. If you need proof, read my post detailing my first rejection. I went through a short depression and I began to question my skills as a writer and if I would ever be good enough. I wanted to quit, well at that time I called it “a momentary break”. Now you’re probably thinking, “why is he telling me this depressing story when his post is titled ‘how to handle rejection’?” That’s a good question my friend. The reason is the days following a rejection are some of the most important in your writing career.
First, you must keep writing. Even if you’re discouraged, keep writing or editing in some form or another. Use the rejection as motivation to continue. You’re one step closer to an acceptance when you receive that rejection. I know that doesn’t make any sense, but it is true. When you see a rejection you get motivated to improve and soon those rejections turn to acceptances.
And trust me, the first rejection is the hardest. The following ones hurt, but nothing compared to the immense self-doubt you experience the first time. Also, as you’re working on improving your story, look for other markets. Make sure your story is not only a good fit, but a perfect fit for the market you are sending to. If you don’t know many markets, check out the website, Duotrope. I have a link posted on the sidebar if you’re interested.
The most important thing is to not deleted or shred your rejections. Hear me, DO NOT shred or delete your rejections. Each rejection is motivation to continue. Deleting it just gives it more power. It’s not like getting rid of it means it never happened, be strong and face it head on.
Remember, you’re not alone in this journey and if you ever get discouraged, email me or send me a comment. Hearing successes and failures from other people remind you that you’re not alone. Thanks for reading and I wish you the best of luck with your future stories. 🙂
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